i have never been the parent of teenagers before. this is my first time. sometimes i feel rather good at it and other times, just plain awful. every day is different. i have a home with three of them right now, well olivia is 12 almost 13, rachel is 14 and josiah is almost 16. they are great kids. i love them more than my own life. but, the position of mom that God has placed me in over them makes me long to raise them with a knowledge of Him deep in their heart so that the character of knowing Him will be reflected in their lives. i want them to do what is right because that is who they are. i want them to be respectful because that is the response of a person who is secure but understands authority. i want them to experience the feeling that overwhelms you when you do the right thing just because you want to and nothing else. i want them to treat each other and others and me with value.
it was somewhat easier to get my kids to behave properly when they were young because i felt like i was just training them to obey, using consequences as a guide. none of my children were difficult when they were little. they did not want to get into trouble, just like i didn't when i was little. but, as they have become teens, they have ventured into the stage of almost adults, at least in their eyes. and, mom and dad don't always seem to know as much as they thought anymore. so, i have experienced some attitudes here and there and it is not that easy to handle. i can't just make them think properly or change their attitudes for them. i can punish them for wrong behavior, but that does not really fix the problem and change their heart. only God can do that.
so, my dilemma is knowing when and how to correct them myself and when to let the Holy Spirit do it. i am learning as i go. i guess that is my whole point. i am just a rookie at this. hopefully by the time jacob is a teen, i will have this down a little bit better. all i know is i want peace in my home and i want harmony amongst all who live here. that may sound ridiculous to some people to think that seven people can live in a home and love and respect one another treating each other with kindness and respect consistently. but, i believe if i keep asking God to help me and listen to his voice, i will experience it more and more.
i know i have the mind of Christ and His thoughts and purposes live in me. thank you Lord! You are the only hope for this rookie mom to a home full of teenagers. i can not imagine doing this without You.
4 days ago