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Thursday, October 22, 2009

fits end when trust begins!

isn't is amazing how it is so easy for people to get along as long as everything is going the way that they would like it to. I have noticed that my children think life is just grand and their parents are wonderful as long as they are getting to do what they want. but, as soon as something doesn't go their way or we have to discuss something that needs to be addressed in their life that they would rather not discuss, the tone of their voice changes and the level of sound rises to try to show the necessity of getting what they want or try to prevent having to deal with an issue that they would like to avoid. when that doesn't work, then over reaction usually takes place with pouting and saying things like, "i never get to do what i want!" "you don't trust me!" every body else gets to do it!" "i don't want to deal with this right now!" it's my life!"

sounds like a fit, doesn't it? actually, it is. just like when a little toddler does not get something they want and they throw themselves on the floor and start screaming. their flailing arms, kicking legs, their cries and screams communicate the same things as the teenager who speaks his mind easily with words. either way, both of them are sure that what they are missing out on is so vitally important that they must convince their parents of that. inside of them is the thought that we do not know as much about the issue as they do or the feeling that we are holding something back from them something that would make their life so much better. but, in reality, the opposite is usually true. we do know more than them and the only thing we are holding something back from them is something that could possibly hurt them or bring them destruction. the real issue is trust. they are not convinced of us having their best interest at heart. they believe that we really do want to keep some things that are good from them.

usually the end result of the issue is sulking and pouting. but, some times children are so convinced that they need what they want so badly that they try to get it somehow anyway. a teenager that has been told that they can not go somewhere that they want to go might sneak and go anyway or a toddler that has been told they can not go outside because it is too cold might continuously keep trying to open the door and go outside themselves. knowing that they can not live without attaining what they want, they attempt to go after it themselves.

i see this behavior in adults as well, even in my own self sometimes. well, maybe adults don't throw outward fits. actually, some do. but getting really frustrated if something is not going the way that we would like it to or had planned for our lives would be considered an adult fit before God. and, just like a child that is not convinced of their parents desire to give them everything that would make their life great, thinking that they are holding back on them, we rant and rave before God. and, rather than trusting God that He has His hand in our lives and He is blessing us with the right things at the right time to bring His perfect plan to pass in our lives, we do one of two things, we sulk, pout, fold our hands in our lap and have a pity party or we venture out to try to get what we want ourselves trying to change our current situation somehow.

the root of every fit is lack of trust in the one that has control. and, lack of trust is the result of believing the lie that the one in control is holding back something good from them. the enemy of our soul has not changed his tactic since the beginning of time. he is still using the same lie that he used in the garden of eden, "this is not a bad thing. it is a good thing. it will not hurt you. it will bring great things into your life. God is really trying to prevent you from knowing what He knows and experiencing something better than you could possibly imagine. don't wait on Him. take matters into your own hands and see for yourself" (my paraphrase) what a big, fat lie!! the only thing that God was holding back from us was death and the destruction of our lives that living apart from Him brings. and, He has not changed!

it is only when our children become fully assured of our love for them, our desire to bring good into their lives and prevent them from falling into harm that they will be able to accept our ways for them and trust us. it is only when we are fully assured of God's love for us and His desire to bring good into our lives and prevent us from falling into harm that we will be able to accept His ways and trust Him. whether it be sulking and pouting or taking matters into our own hands, fits end when trust begins!

24 comments:

Beth in NC said...

Such wisdom Christy! Trust is key. You're right. And I wonder how many times God see's me acting like a stubborn child when I want things my own way? Hmmmm.

Anonymous said...

That is so true!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He & Me + 3 said...

Wow that is so good and so true. Why is it so hard to trust sometimes? Expanding our faith...Lord increase my faith to trust in you for everything.

Andrea said...

I have acted like a stubborn child far too many times to count.
andrea

Adeye said...

Oh my goodness, friend--that is a fabulous post! Such amazing wisdom shared from the heart. Thank you for sharing your precious heart with all of us.

Love you!

RCUBEs said...

I think I needed His spanking back then with all those fits I had displayed! And boy, am I ever glad that He disciplines...then, I know that He loves me. And when I felt that, there was no other reply but to trust in the One Who knows what's best for me. Love and blessings to you, awesome sister!

Angela said...

I have been meaning to tell you. Last week there was a lady at the grocery store that looked JUST LIKE YOU..I kept staring and staring at her. I was ready to go up to her and tell her how much she looked like you. Christy, I tell ya, she was your twin!!

Darcie said...

We studied in Neh. 9 last night for our bible study...what an eye opener to sit there and read that and see myself in those verses. How many times has God revealed his will to me and I turn and do my own thing, and yet by His love and mercy I still am where I am today. Why does it take so much for us to trust His will his best...just like a parents will for thier children is best. Thanks for this lovely post and reminder.

Amber said...

beautiful post, christy. beautiful post. and so so so so true.

Kristin said...

This is absolutely true! Such a great post, Christy!

I wanted to say thank you so much too for your order and for helping me to raise money for Elijah! I will get your things in the mail to you today :)

Jennifer W. said...

I am always so touched by your writing, Christie! God gave you a gift. :)
Jen

Warren Baldwin said...

I thought of Prov. 19:3, about how the fool rages against the Lord. When we press our wants ahead of what God wants for us we hurt ourselves. Then, when we do get hurt or in trouble, we often rant agaist God. "How could he let this happen to me!"

Bad things do happen unjustly to people, and the natural response is to cry out. The Bible actually encourages that in the Psalms!

But too often even adults are like the children you describe here - we want to sneak out and do our thing! No right to rage then, but to humble ourselves and repent.

Good post.

Tara said...

I remember being this way as a teen though I was consider a "good" child. I tend to do this now but I am trying to get better. Great post as usual!

Cheesemakin' Mamma said...

Wonderful post and so true. I'm going to try to be aware of any "fits" I might throw this week when I don't get my way!

Love ya,
Jackie

~*Michelle*~ said...

Preach it!

"the root of every fit is lack of trust in the one that has control"

And being a total control freak, this is something I often struggle with....it's not trusting, it's giving up the control.

thanks for this, Christy Rose!

E @ Scottsville said...

Funny how true this seems to be in the life of my 18 year old right now. I think things are starting to 'click' finally!

Karen said...

LOVE your title...and this post....

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

Trust has been a huge issue for me, both on the home front and with my heart. I've dealt with it even today... wanting to manipulate a situation to get what I want, not what is best.

How I pray to love from a place of best-interest instead of self-interest. Doing what is best by God's standards usually means putting my interests on the back burner. Some times I get it right; sometimes not so much, but I'm working on it.

Thank you for painting such a beautiful truth with your thoughts here.

peace~elaine

Tammy On the Go said...

I have done some pouting today..thanks for the reminder.

Mich said...

Wow! HAve I ever thrown some fits!!! Thanks for sharing your heart and reminding me of the Father's love.

Miti said...

Great post Christy Rose! You nailed it on the head. We ALL have our moments, but we should be more trusting of those who love us, especially God.

Anonymous said...

Christy!

Yes between your sharing for us to stop having a fits to get our way and calming ourselves and contemplating just how amazing the Lord is and his Hmmmmm moments. We would have a whole new world wouldn't we :)
Love you dearly and learn so much from your anointed mind!!!!

Thankyou for sharing the gift of who you are with those around you! I am so blessed to have you in my life!
Loren

heidi said...

You should have just started this post out - Dear heidi: because I think y ou're talking to me.

*sigh* *stomps foot* But...but...but...

Anonymous said...

So true I just spent the the day with 36 preschool who behaved better than their parents. It's never okay to pout in God eyes.
Melinda